I hate foreplay

I hate "foreplay."

Don't get me wrong: I love the acts usually comprehended by that term. When I'm in bed with The Boyfriend, I am not overly hasty to get to the screwing part of the program.

I hate the word "foreplay." I hate the implication that all of those delicious acts are just a prelude to — and inferior to — intercourse, that "sex" means intercourse and everything else is not sex.

Here is my definition of "sex":

The entire gamut of intimate and loving human contact. It can involve genitalia, anuses, mouths, hands, and other organs. It is not limited to intercourse.

Some things to note about this:

• It has to be "intimate and loving." A gynecological exam is not sex. Rape is not sex.
• The genitalia or anus involved could be your own. Masturbation is sex.

All of the following are sex:

• A hand on a breast
• A hand on male genitalia
• A finger (or hand) in an anus
• A hand on or in female genitalia
• A mouth on a breast
• A mouth on male genitalia
• A mouth on an anus
• A mouth on or in female genitalia
• A sextoy on a breast
• A sextoy on male genitalia
• A sextoy on or in an anus
• A sextoy on or in female genitalia
• A breast on a breast
• A breast on female genitalia
• A breast on male genitalia
• Female genitalia on female genitalia
• Male genitalia on male genitalia
• Male genitalia on female genitalia
• A penis on or in an anus
• A penis on or in a vagina

Notes:

• Male genitalia includes penis, balls — the whole package.
• Female genitalia includes vagina, vulva, labia, clitoris — the whole package.

Santorum, one more time

Even though we won't have Rick Santorum to kick around any more (for now, anyway), we can still enjoy these words of wisdom from Porn Stars against Santorum and participate in Wank Out 2012 at 8 p.m. on May 1.

What if the man wore the strap-on?

That's the musical question asked by This dude gets assisted by a strap-on. Not what I expected from the title, but interesting nonetheless.

Wifey's Surprise

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Do Europeans Have More Fun, part 4: F*ck My Girl & Me (Bisexual MMF Threesome)

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Rye is a take charge guy

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Uncommon Appetites: A Take Charge Guy. Posted: 07 Mar 2011 07:56 AM PST Rye masturbates with an anal toy. His wife Violet documents the proceedings.

Bisexual Guy F*cks His Boyfriend and Hot Brunette

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Hot Bisexual Threesome

Here's a very nice video: Hot Bisexual Threesome. Starts with a man-woman couple getting it on -- sucking, 69, and so on. He's muscular with a long, curved penis. She's a thin brunette. She likes to touch herself as her man screws her. (This is something I like to do myself, and I like to see it in porn. You -- or your partner -- can do it, too.)

Another man walks down the beach and into their house. The first man invites him in. He's got gorgeous blue eyes and wears an earring. The woman sits on Muscles' face; she and Blue Eyes take turns sucking his cock. Blue Eyes gets into a 69 with the woman and sucks Muscles some more.

Blue Eyes screws the woman, she touches herself, and both share Muscles' cock.

The woman sits on Blue Eyes' face as Muscles gets ready to screw him. She shifts to holding his legs up, then touching herself, while cheering on the guys. Blue Eyes strokes himself to orgasm. Later, she sucks Blue Eyes and Muscles comes in her face.

Masturbation Instruction

I've discovered a new genre of video (new to me, anyway). It's called masturbation instruction (substitute the slang term of your choice). I can't imagine many men on the Internet need instructions in how to masturbate, but that's not really what these are about anyway. They're more like masturbation commands.

I've only seen a few of these, so I'm not sure how much I can generalize, but I'll try. Basically, a woman, fully or mostly clothed, comes onscreen and tells the (male) viewer how he should be masturbating -- how fast, what strokes, and most importantly, when he is allowed to (and must) come for her. I guess they're a kind of femdom* and also a species of the subgenre CFNM, since the woman may be clothed, but the man watching her: not so much.

Tip of, er, something to Married Sub, who alerted me to these videos. See his favorite masturbation instruction video.

(*) When I go looking for pegging material, I often come across femdom stuff, since people often associate the two, even though pegging doesn't have to include female dominance. But, then, some people like it and that's cool, too.

Update: Married Sub's comment below and recent post reminded me of yet another related genre: orgasm denial.

Jennifer's husband comes out of the closet

I'm not usually into the whole cuckold-bisexual scene. It's often portrayed as something the woman forces on her man and so becomes another form of femdom. On the other hand, if all parties are into it, then it can be a hot way to introduce an MMF threesome.

At the beginning of Jennifer's Husband Comes Out of the Closet, Jennifer's husband -- a bald man who looks like Michael Stipe of R.E.M. -- is masturbating to a threesome video showing a black man screwing a white woman as her husband holds her. Jennifer comes home and catches her husband watching this video. She freaks out, but soon agrees to cuckold her husband as he hides in the closet, just not with a black guy. (A lot of cuckold videos seem to have the added element of the other man being African-American. There may be a racist subtext to this, but it's clearly a turn-on for some people.)

Jennifer brings home a man from work. She assures him that her husband is not home. As Jennifer starts to go down on her lover, he hears something and asks what it is, prompting Jennifer's husband to come out of the closet (get it?).

"What's he?" the lover asks.

"He's a cuckold," Jennifer answers.

"Oh really? That's cool. Why don't you come over here and help your wife suck this cock, then?"

As the husband goes down on his wife's lover, Jennifer pushes his head down, encouraging him to take it deep. Husband and wife take turns sucking their lover, until she climbs on top to ride him cowgirl style. Hubby stations himself down below to lick his balls.

After a break for a little more sucking, Jennifer turns around for reverse cowgirl. Her husband inserts their lover's dick into her pussy. As they screw, he frequently goes down on both of them and, at one point, rubs the lover's penis against her clitoris before reinserting it.

(I have to say, much as I enjoy MMF threesome videos -- the definition of which is that there is some man-on-man action involved -- I sometimes miss scenes in which the woman is the center of attention, as you find in MFM videos. Very often in MMF videos, for example, you see the two men screwing, and the woman will be stroking or sucking the bottom man's cock. Don't get me wrong; I love that! But what about the reverse? What if the woman and one of the men are screwing? Why can't the other man stroke or lick her pussy? I've rarely seen that happen, but this video is proof that a woman can get that extra attention in an MMF video.)

More sucking, again with Jennifer strongly encouraging her husband.

Jennifer's husband goes down on her as their lover kisses her breasts.

"You two are wonderful," she says. "Get that pussy wet for that cock."

The lover goes back to screwing Jennifer, this time spoons-style. Again, Hubby licks both their genitals. She holds his face, so he can watch them screw.

Jennifer has her husband suck their lover as she masturbates.

More screwing and licking. The lover ends by coming on Hubby's face, resting on Jennifer's belly.

After he leaves, Hubby rims Jennifer and then comes on her feet.

I love the way the wife is turned on by what her husband is doing -- as much or more than what she herself is doing.

Why masturbation helps procreation

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Why Masturbation Helps Procreation - Newsweek Posted: 12 Oct 2010 07:34 PM PDT There are good evolutionary reasons for male masturbation. Females do it just because it feels good!

Work on your techniques, people!

You may have heard about a big new study on Americans' sex lives called the National Survey of Sexual Health and Behavior.

Some of the news reports sniggered over the discrepancy between the percentage men who think their last partner had an orgasam (85%) and the percentage of women who actually did (64%).

What I found much more interesting, however, was this nugget: the survey listed five "techniques" one might use:

• penile-vaginal intercourse


• solo masturbation


• partnered masturbation


• oral sex


• anal sex

Not surprisingly:

Women reported they were much more likely to have an orgasm if their partners used more than one technique; 54 percent of women reported having an orgasm the last time they had sex when they engaged only in one act, but 89 percent of women who performed five sex acts during their last encounter had an orgasm.

Men get off from almost anything, of course (ha!). You can still use multiple techniques on your guy. As readers of this blog know, even anal sex can be practiced by a woman on a man.

You can touch yourself ...

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Qucikies: Savage Love by Dan Savage Posted: 22 Aug 2010 10:46 AM PDT "Here's something you may not know about vaginal penetration ... because it's not something that's typically covered in small-town high-school sex-ed classes: You can touch yourself during vaginal intercourse. Whatever you're doing that's getting you off when you're alone, ICC, do that thing—touch yourself that way."

Actress Envy masturbates and gets anal sex

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Envy, hot brunette secretary, masturbates and gets anal sex | Fantasti.cc Posted: 19 Jul 2010 01:16 AM PDT

Anal for women and men

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Sex Secrets » Blog Archive » My First Anal Sex Experience Posted: 01 Jul 2010 05:40 AM PDT Svetlana writes about her first time.

Slipping - The Fiona Files IV Posted: 01 Jul 2010 05:27 AM PDT A male rape fantasy, if you can believe that, with a woman watching and masturbating. It was hot, even with the spelling and other errors.

To masturbate is human

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Bering in Mind: One reason why humans are special and unique: We masturbate. A lot. Posted: 23 Jun 2010 10:36 PM PDT

What makes a woman want to masturbate?

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What Makes A Woman Want To Masturbate? Posted: 12 Feb 2010 03:02 AM PST "Many women will do masturbation during intercourse with their partner. There are times when your partner cannot reach the right spot to help you to have an orgasm, while you are having sex. Your partner also may like to know that you are pleasuring yourself, and they will probably want to watch. This can also give your partner sexual pleasure by just watching you. This will make for a better relationship."

Outdoor bisexual mmf

Oh, my! This video has something for everybody in it.

When it starts out, a black woman is getting busy with a skinny white boy. (I would call her African-American, but everyone seems to speak French in this video.) She puts on a strap-on, and they take turns sucking each other's penises.

The young man takes the woman from behind (anally, I think, it's hard to tell from the angle shown). A black man watches them from a balcony above. Soon, he is stroking his big penis in response to the scene below. The woman for that matter fondles herself as she is penetrated.

After a little more sucking of the strap-on, she penetrates him with it.

The black man jumps down and has the white boy suck him, as the woman is still pegging him with the strap-on.

Both the woman and the white boy suck the black man's penis.

They all stand up and the black man takes the black woman anally. The white boy fondles her. (I'd like to see more of this in MMF videos. Not the M-F anal so much - though as you know, I love it whenever a man gets penetrated anally, either with a strap-on or a real penis. No, what I'd like to see more of is when one of the men is screwing the woman, the other man is fondling her genitalia. As you probably know, most women don't come from intercourse alone, so as long as there's another man around, he could offer a helping hand -- or mouth!)

Next the black man, turns the white boy around and takes his ass. The woman sucks the white boy and masturbates herself.

The men then doubly penetrate the woman -- white boy vaginally, black man anally.

Naturally, it all ends with both men coming into the woman's mouth.

(When I first saw this, I assumed the black woman and man were Afro-French. Since the earthquake, it occurs to me that they might be Haitian. If so, I hope they're all OK.)

She's 16 and she wants a vibrator

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I'm 16, and I want a vibrator. - - Slate Magazine Posted: 10 Nov 2009 06:23 PM PST Interesting question: should she tell her mother?

Outercourse (non-penetrative sex)

Suppose you're having sex with a man, but you don't want to put his penis in your vagina, anus, or mouth.

Why would I want to do that?

You might want to do this in order to:

• Reduce the risk of sexually transmitted diseases
• Reduce the risk of pregnancy
• Save intercourse for later
• Be intimate when you can't have intercourse because of health issues
  
• Deny your partner an orgasm
• Try something new and hot

Whoa, back up there, Vickie. "Deny your partner an orgasm"? What??!

Yes, it's true; some women and men are turned on by the idea of not letting the man come during sex. However, these practices don't require the man not to come. He can still get off, if that's what's desired.

OK, Vickie, but are these practices really sex?

The practices I'm referring to are known as non-penetrative sex. They are also sometimes called outercourse. Some of them come under the name of frottage.

But what is it exactly, Vickie?

Non-penetrative sex acts (outercourse) include:

• Kissing
• Talking dirty
• Phone sex, text sex, etc.
• Nipple play
  
• Stroking yourself (masturbation)
• Stroking your partner (mutual/shared masturbation, handjob)
• Rubbing the external parts of the female genitalia (vulva, clitoris) with hands, foot, penis, etc.
  
• Rubbing the penis with hands, foot, breasts, thighs, buttocks, vulva, anal entrance, etc.
  
• Frottage ("dry humping")
  

But, Vickie, is it hot sex?

Still not sure non-penetrative sex can be hot? Check out this video featuring porn star Liza Harper.

Do you practice non-penetrative sex? If so, what do you do and why? Tell us about it in the comments below. You can do it anonymously if you want.