Sunday, July 2, 2017

The Penis Fetish

Hey hi, all,

This is really interesting.

According to Dr. Dawn Michael, noted sex therapist,* cuckold husbands can develop a penis fetish. That means they are really interested in other men's penises. I know what you're thinking: "That means he's gay." I thought the same thing myself, but no, not necessarily. As long as he's not interested in men or having a relationship with a man — just penises — he's not gay.

Do you see what this means? If The Boyfriend has a penis fetish (or if he, um, develops ones), I can take a lover, and he will even encourage me to cuckold him, in the hopes of getting to experience the other man's penis. And yet it won't mean he's gay, which is good, because I do love him and all, and want to continue our relationship, and don't want him to run off with a boyfriend of his own.

Here is Dr. Dawn's video and some articles on the subject:

* She's got a lot of YouTube videos.

Sunday, June 4, 2017

Vickie's Vocabulary, version 1.2

Vickie's Vocabulary now has its own page. Now with links to my Pornhub playlists and a dose of cock teasing. But don't worry, all major updates will be announced on the blog as well.

Vickie's Vocabulary: Cock Tease

From time to time, I will add new terms to Vickie's Vocabulary.

Cock Tease
Practice in which a man's partner stimulates his penis, but denies him intercourse or a fulfilling orgasm. See also Orgasm denial and Ruined orgasm.

Friday, June 2, 2017

"Gentrified: A Wife Seduced" by Kirsten McCurran (book review)

I've read a lot of cuckold fiction -- mostly short stories, a few novel-length works. Most of the novels seem to provide a scaffold on which to hang the sex scenes -- I read erotica, so I've certainly got nothing against sex scenes -- but not a lot of development. In her novel, McCurran takes the time she needs to develop her characters and their actions, and I think it pays off.

McCurran gives us a look into the thoughts of both Jess, a young wife and mother who has moved into a gentrifying district, and Winston, her handsome, black neighbor. Winston knows what he wants right from the beginning. Jess is unsure at each step; many of her thoughts end in question marks. This rings true for a man and a woman in their positions. (One thing that gives me pause, though, is that Winston sometimes thinks of Jess as "prey." Do men really think like that?) The other major characters are Kyle, Jess's husband, and Nicole, her best friend.

The story unfolds at a leisurely pace, with events deepening the relationships among the characters, yet with plenty of steamy sex along the way. I think any fan of cuckold erotica will find something to like here.

Friday, July 29, 2016

I hate foreplay

I hate "foreplay."

Don't get me wrong: I love the acts usually comprehended by that term. When I'm bed with The Boyfriend, I am not overly hasty to get to the screwing part of the program.

I hate the word "foreplay." I hate the implication that all of those delicious acts are just a prelude to — and inferior to — intercourse, that "sex" means intercourse and everything else is not sex.

Here is my definition of "sex":

The entire gamut of intimate and loving human contact. It can involve genitalia, anuses, mouths, hands, and other organs. It is not limited to intercourse.

Some things to note about this:

  • It has to be "intimate and loving." A gynecological exam is not sex. Rape is not sex.
  • The genitalia or anus involved could be your own. Masturbation is sex.

All of the following are sex:

  • A hand on a breast
  • A hand on male genitalia
  • A finger (or hand) in an anus
  • A hand on or in female genitalia
  • A mouth on a breast
  • A mouth on male genitalia
  • A mouth on an anus
  • A mouth on or in female genitalia
  • A sextoy on a breast
  • A sextoy on male genitalia
  • A sextoy on or in an anus
  • A sextoy on or in female genitalia
  • A breast on a breast
  • A breast on female genitalia
  • A breast on male genitalia
  • Female genitalia on female genitalia
  • Male genitalia on male genitalia
  • Male genitalia on female genitalia
  • A penis on or in an anus
  • A penis on or in a vagina


  • Male genitalia includes penis, balls — the whole package.
  • Female genitalia includes vagina, vulva, labia, clitoris — the whole package.