Friday, July 29, 2016

I hate foreplay

I hate "foreplay."

Don't get me wrong: I love the acts usually comprehended by that term. When I'm bed with The Boyfriend, I am not overly hasty to get to the screwing part of the program.

I hate the word "foreplay." I hate the implication that all of those delicious acts are just a prelude to — and inferior to — intercourse, that "sex" means intercourse and everything else is not sex.

Here is my definition of "sex":

The entire gamut of intimate and loving human contact. It can involve genitalia, anuses, mouths, hands, and other organs. It is not limited to intercourse.

Some things to note about this:

  • It has to be "intimate and loving." A gynecological exam is not sex. Rape is not sex.
  • The genitalia or anus involved could be your own. Masturbation is sex.

All of the following are sex:

  • A hand on male genitalia
  • A finger (or hand) in an anus
  • A hand on or in female genitalia
  • A mouth on male genitalia
  • A mouth on an anus
  • A mouth on or in female genitalia
  • A sextoy on male genitalia
  • A sextoy on or in an anus
  • A sextoy on or in female genitalia
  • Female genitalia on female genitalia
  • Male genitalia on male genitalia
  • Male genitalia on female genitalia
  • A penis on or in an anus
  • A penis on or in a vagina

Notes:

  • Male genitalia includes penis, balls — the whole package.
  • Female genitalia includes vagina, vulva, labia, clitoris — the whole package.

Friday, June 17, 2016

Vickie's Vocabulary: Sex

From time to time, I will revise terms in Vickie's Vocabulary. The part in italics is new.

Sex
The entire gamut of intimate and loving human contact. It can involve genitalia, anuses, mouths, hands, and other organs. It is not limited to intercourse.

Saturday, August 15, 2015

Vickie's Vocabulary: Adorable, beautiful, cute, gorgeous, hot, lovely, pretty, sweet

From time to time, I will revise terms in Vickie's Vocabulary. The part in italics is new.

Adorable, beautiful, cute, gorgeous, hot, lovely, pretty, sweet
These words, which used to be applied almost exclusively to women, are now frequently used by women to apply to men's faces, bodies, and body parts. I think it reflects a changing power dynamic. Women look at, admire, and lust after male beauty and are not ashamed to admit it.

Wednesday, August 12, 2015

A change in The Boyfriend?

In the past, when The Boyfriend and I saw a woman in public we admired, he would say:

"I'd do her."

He's been watching cuckold videos (at my encouragement, naturally). Recently, we saw a hot MILF walking down the street, and he said:

"I'd like to watch a man with a big cock do her."

Vickie's Vocabulary: Do him / do her

From time to time, I will add new terms to Vickie's Vocabulary.

Do him / Do her, to
To screw someone. Often expressed as a desire to get into someone's pants. Example: As Sarah and Vickie eyed the studly young construction worker, Vickie said, "I'd do him."

Sunday, July 26, 2015

Nina Hartley tells you how to make love with older women

In this video, veteran porn actress * Nina Hartley tells you how to make love with older women. She discusses the emotional as well as the physical aspects. As an older woman -- well, older than some people -- I appreciate everything she has to say. * Nina is 56 and still going strong.

Wednesday, April 8, 2015

Vickie's Vocabulary: IR

From time to time, I will revise terms in Vickie's Vocabulary. The part in italics is new.
IR
Interracial sex; sex between partners of different races, usually black men and white women. Often part of a cuckold fetish. (One of these days, I'll have to write a blog post about why that is.)
  • Diigo: My IR links