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Thursday, April 29, 2010
Blowjob; orgasm
Tuesday, April 27, 2010
Sunday, April 25, 2010
Anal Sex is increasingly popular in the hetero world
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Saturday, April 24, 2010
Non-Dominant Pegging
I wrote recently on the Tribe.net group Pegging is for Everyone that I prefer "loving, egalitarian pegging without the femdom stuff." How, some of my friends on the group asked, could a woman pegging a man not be dominant? Allow me to explain.
First, let me tell you about the kind of pegging I like. I like the unusual -- and powerful -- feeling of having a penis between my legs. It may be artificial, but it's always big and hard -- unlike real ones. I like to be the one doing the penetrating instead of always being the one penetrated, the role reversal. Sarah at MyVag.net said it nicely:
I like stimulating my man's ass and prostate, which are very sensitive areas that I believe most straight men would enjoy having stimulated more often. I also like to peg him with love and joy for both parties. (Think about it, guys -- and it seems to be men who are less likely to get this -- don't you want to give love and joy when you screw your wife or girlfriend?)
OK, Vickie, some of you are thinking, isn't it still a form of dominance any time a woman is pegging a man in the ass?
I don't think it is necessarily. To explain, let me tell you now about the kind of pegging I don't like. I know about this only from what I've read on the Internet and seen in porn videos, but I believe it exists in the real world. In this kind of pegging, the woman has to force the man into it and/or belittles him once she does. This kind of pegging stems from two related, and mistaken, beliefs about the act. (Note to D/S and femdom folks: I'll have something to say about roleplaying games below.)
Men have to be forced to get pegged, the theory goes, because men don't (or shouldn't) want anything up their asses. As I said before, the anus and prostate are very sensitive organs, and I think almost any man would enjoy pegging if he relaxed and gave it a try (assuming his partner gives him plenty of time, love, and lube.)
A related beliefs goes like this: If a man does want something up his ass, there's something wrong with him. When he is penetrated, he is acting like a woman or a gay man and is therefore less than a real man. There are all kinds of troubling assumptions built in to this one:
I want to point out what Kate wrote to Dan Savage:
And received this answer from guest advisor Violet Blue:
Of course, Kate did go on to create the group, Pegging is for Everyone, and those of us who want to practice -- and talk about -- non-dominant pegging will be forever grateful.
(Note to those who are into female dominance [femdom] and male submission: If you like scenes in which the woman is insulting the man for getting pegged, and everybody involved is into it and no one's feelings are getting hurt, I say, more power to you, enjoy!)
First, let me tell you about the kind of pegging I like. I like the unusual -- and powerful -- feeling of having a penis between my legs. It may be artificial, but it's always big and hard -- unlike real ones. I like to be the one doing the penetrating instead of always being the one penetrated, the role reversal. Sarah at MyVag.net said it nicely:
Ok... besides being penetrated, I have done a bit of thrusting myself, since the purchase of a shiny blue strap-on dildo. This was something that I was fascinated with for some time before getting to do it. For me, being the person in charge of penetration was not a power trip, it was simply sexy because it involved an entirely different set of movements and actions. Anything new is almost automatically exciting.
Also, while it isn't so much a reversal of who is powerful and who is passive in bed (because I'm almost never passive or submissive in bed), it is a reversal of who is active and who is receptive, if that makes sense. Instead of taking something into me, I get [to] put into somebody else. This can be sexy when it simply involves fingers or kisses, but having hip action involved is much satisfying in the way it relates to fundamental sexual reflexes (want to move hips!).
I like stimulating my man's ass and prostate, which are very sensitive areas that I believe most straight men would enjoy having stimulated more often. I also like to peg him with love and joy for both parties. (Think about it, guys -- and it seems to be men who are less likely to get this -- don't you want to give love and joy when you screw your wife or girlfriend?)
OK, Vickie, some of you are thinking, isn't it still a form of dominance any time a woman is pegging a man in the ass?
I don't think it is necessarily. To explain, let me tell you now about the kind of pegging I don't like. I know about this only from what I've read on the Internet and seen in porn videos, but I believe it exists in the real world. In this kind of pegging, the woman has to force the man into it and/or belittles him once she does. This kind of pegging stems from two related, and mistaken, beliefs about the act. (Note to D/S and femdom folks: I'll have something to say about roleplaying games below.)
Men have to be forced to get pegged, the theory goes, because men don't (or shouldn't) want anything up their asses. As I said before, the anus and prostate are very sensitive organs, and I think almost any man would enjoy pegging if he relaxed and gave it a try (assuming his partner gives him plenty of time, love, and lube.)
A related beliefs goes like this: If a man does want something up his ass, there's something wrong with him. When he is penetrated, he is acting like a woman or a gay man and is therefore less than a real man. There are all kinds of troubling assumptions built in to this one:
- The one being penetrated is some kind of victim. Anyone on the receiving end of good vaginal or anal sex can tell you this is not true. (It's even built into our language: Why is telling someone to "get fucked" some kind of curse?)
- Women and gay men are inferior, and a straight man should avoid acting like them in any way. I hope I don't have to refute this one in this day and age.
- A man who wants to be pegged by a woman is gay. Not true. If you are a man happily having sex with a woman, you are not gay. As sex advice columnist Dan Savage has said, "if a straight woman is doing it to a straight man, it's hetero sex, however uncomfortable it might make some insecure little pricks." Yes, pegging is similar to acts enjoyed by gay men, but so is getting a blowjob, and I don't see any straight men turning down blowjobs from willing women.
I want to point out what Kate wrote to Dan Savage:
Are there any forums out there dedicated to the discussion of pegging for mostly vanilla women? Everything I've come across plays into stereotypes that plague male-on-female anal sex. ("Take my cock up that little ass," etc.) I don't peg my man to work out my aggression, I peg him because the prostate is a wondrous thing. I can't swim with the hardcore kinksters. Is there a pond for vanilla fishes like me?
Pegging Is For Everyone
And received this answer from guest advisor Violet Blue:
"Pegging in most porn is festooned with stereotypes of shame and pain, like most sex in mainstream porn," says Violet. "And unfortunately, these stereotypes have seeped into online sex culture.
"But you don't have to be Mistress Asscrusher and he doesn't have to answer to Worthless Buttslut in order to enjoy strap-on sex. Like I explain in my book, most couples who peg do it because it's fun, intimate, new, exciting, and quite loving. PIFE need not feel isolated. She should start a forum of her own, on a space like Tribe.net, and she'll be pleasantly surprised at how welcome and happy she'll make the many women like herself feel."
Of course, Kate did go on to create the group, Pegging is for Everyone, and those of us who want to practice -- and talk about -- non-dominant pegging will be forever grateful.
(Note to those who are into female dominance [femdom] and male submission: If you like scenes in which the woman is insulting the man for getting pegged, and everybody involved is into it and no one's feelings are getting hurt, I say, more power to you, enjoy!)
Thursday, April 22, 2010
Male "escorts" (for women) in Australia
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Wednesday, April 21, 2010
Zymurgy Mike ... and Cara!
I discovered that ZymurgyMike has added me to their blogroll (though at my old address). That's how I found their charming blog.
I say "their" because the blog is written by Mike and his lovely wife Cara. (If you click on those links, you'll find that they quickly become very nsfw.) Some of my favorite posts involve their adventures with MFM threesomes.
(Zymurgy, by the way, is the study of brewing. However, most of the posts on this blog have less to do with yeast and more with another frothy, earthy-smelling liquid!)
I say "their" because the blog is written by Mike and his lovely wife Cara. (If you click on those links, you'll find that they quickly become very nsfw.) Some of my favorite posts involve their adventures with MFM threesomes.
(Zymurgy, by the way, is the study of brewing. However, most of the posts on this blog have less to do with yeast and more with another frothy, earthy-smelling liquid!)
Tuesday, April 6, 2010
How to win friends and influence people
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