Friday, December 31, 2010

Anal sex: doing it right

In a blog post, sex advice columnist Dan Savage reads a column by professional scold Michael Medved and sums up his attitude as Lesbians Make My Dick Hard...but gay guys? Not so much.


The most common sexual practice between two men involves an act of aggression—inflicting more pain than pleasure for at least one of the parties.

Um, gee. I don't mean to toss sand into Michael's lube, but... straight people have anal sex too. Lots of anal sex. And they like it.

And anyone who's "inflicting more pain than pleasure" during sex—anally, orally, vaginally—is doing it wrong.

Vickie sums up:

  1. Lots of different people -- male-female couples and female-female couples, as well as male-male couples -- have anal sex. You just need a partner, and at least one of you needs to have an anus. (You don't even need a partner.)
  2. Believe it or not, some gay men don't have anal sex at all. Would that make them less disgusting to those like Medved who want to judge people by what they do in bed?
  3. And let's not forget Dan's last point: if you're inflicting more pain than pleasure, you're doing it wrong.
I recommend reading the whole post.

Tonight is New Year's Eve. I hope you stay safe and that you're able to give someone some pleasure. See you again in 2011.

Wednesday, December 29, 2010

CFNM Strap-on Videos

As I've written before, I'm not into dominance with my pegging, but there's a mild form of dominance that some of you might find interesting. It's called clothed-female-nude-male (CFNM). I guess the idea is that the man has to degrade himself by getting naked, but the woman doesn't. I wouldn't have thought that it would go with pegging, but here's some videos that combine the two. They all feature a brunette woman wearing a jockey outfit and a strap-on dildo and a man wearing not so much.

Tuesday, December 21, 2010

Little taiko boy


[Video] Gorgeous, Gay and Very Sexy – Little Taiko Boy | violet blue ® :: open source sex

Posted: 20 Dec 2010 09:50 PM PST

Japanese video of the drag goddess who leaves all the gay men bejewelled condoms. There's no actual sex in this, just a cute fantasy for gay/bi boys and the women who love them.

Sunday, December 19, 2010

The End of "Don't Ask, Don't Tell"

The Senate has voted to end "Don't ask, don't tell." President Barack Obama will certainly sign the bill, which already passed the House. (Translation for my non-U.S. readers: this means that gays and lesbians will soon be able to serve openly in our military, something that many other countries have been doing for years.)

Friday, December 17, 2010

Yahoo leaves a bad taste in my mouth

Yahoo is "sunsetting" its Delicious service, according to a leaked internal presentation. So not cool. Lots of people, including me, used it to save and share links. I even had it set up to post my links here (after approval). It was very convenient for me. I also loved the way you could add as many tags as you wanted (unlike Blogger) and bundle them in different ways. If you have any great ideas about a replacement service, let me know.

Update: Delicious says:

Is Delicious being shut down? And should I be worried about my data?

- No, we are not shutting down Delicious. While we have determined that there is not a strategic fit at Yahoo!, we believe there is a ideal home for Delicious outside of the company where it can be resourced to the level where it can be competitive.

Friday, December 10, 2010

Bigger and Better

The Boyfriend and I have some extra time over the holidays. Recently, we made our way to bed, stripped, and started fooling around.

"Hey, Babe," I said, feeling frisky, "how would you like it if I pegged you tonight?"

The big grin on his face told me everything I needed to know. He got on all fours. I donned my rig and started lubing his anus. I penetrated his ass and began thrusting. He really seemed to be enjoying it -- and I was getting off because he was getting off -- but after a while, he signaled me to stop.

"What is it? Am I hurting you?" I asked.

"No, no, Sweetie," he said, suddenly sounding a bit shy. "I just, um, wonder if you could use something bigger on me."

"Certainly," I chirped. I pulled out of him and slid the harness off. I reached into my toy drawer and pulled out a dildo that we normally use for pussy play. It's too big to fit into the space in the harness.

I applied some lube to the new, bigger dildo -- not too much, because there was already some lube in his ass and I didn't want things to get too slippery and loose. I positioned myself by his side, so I could push the dildo into his ass, but also get a look at his face as I did so. He closed his eyes and groaned. Clearly, the bigger dildo was making an impression on him.

His penis was rock-hard by now. With my free hand, I reached forward and began stroking it, while continuing to slide the dildo in and out of his ass.

He was lost to the world now. The whole of his experience was concentrated on the sensations I was giving him. I had him in my hands. It's quite a turn-on to have that much responsibility for your lover's pleasure.

"Slower, slower please!" he urged.

I immediately stopped pushing into him. "Am I hurting you, Babe?"

"No, not there! The dildo feels great inside, keep giving it to me. I want you to stop rubbing my cock so fast."

I slowed down. "Is that OK?"


My hand was fluttering along his erect penis with barely a feather-light touch, but I kept up the pressure on his ass.

It didn't take much of this -- gentle stroking at the front and firm plunges into his rear -- before he shot a river of come over my hand and onto the bed.

I gave him some time to recover before I said, "I want you to lick my pussy until I tell you to stop."

Which wasn't for a good long time.