Showing posts with label women. Show all posts
Showing posts with label women. Show all posts

Sunday, April 5, 2015

Vickie's Vocabulary, ver. 1.0

My friends say I can curse like a sailor, but this isn't about four-letter words (mostly). It's about the terms for sexual organs and acts that I use for posts here on my blog, for my favorites on Xvideos, and for my links on Diigo.

Adorable, beautiful, cute, gorgeous, hot, lovely, pretty, sweet
These words, which used to be applied almost exclusively to women, are now frequently used by women to apply to men's faces, bodies, and body parts. I think it reflects a changing power dynamic. Women look at, admire, and lust after male beauty and are not ashamed to admit it.
Anal sex
The insertion of a penis or a strap-on dildo into one's partner's anus for purposes of sexual pleasure; anal intercourse. (Yes, I know this violates my rule about using the word Sex for more than just intercourse.) See also Assplay, Pegging, Men fucking.
Anilingus
Licking of the anus. Syn.: Rimming.
Assplay
Sexual activity involving the buttocks or anus other than anal intercourse. See also Anal sex.
Balls
A man's testicles. They're called "balls" because they're fun to play with. Find some balls and play with them today.
Bull
See Lover.
CFNM
Clothed female, nude male. It's indicative of a woman's power in the encounter that she gets to keep her clothes on while the man must strip nude. Often part of femdom and male stripper scenes.
Cock
See Penis.
Come, to
verb To have an orgasm (male or female). Combining form: come inside
Creampie
Often used for a man's deposit of cum in a woman's pussy or anus. I use it to mean the act of a man eating a deposit of cum from a woman's pussy or anus. Often the one eating is a cuckold, the pussy belongs to his wife, and the cum came from her lover.
Crossdresser
See Transvestite
Cuckold
noun A husband whose wife is having sex with others. In modern fetish usage, the wife is usually conducting her extracurricular affairs with her husband's knowledge and consent. If everyone's agreeable, she may see her lover in her husband's presence and even with his participation. There may or may not be an element of humiliation in his status. See also Hotwife.
Cuckold, to
verb To make a man a cuckold. Example: Vickie cuckolded her husband Sam when she spent the night with her lover Lex.
Cum
noun The ejaculatory fluid that normally accompanies the male orgasm. Combining terms: cum eating, cumswap, cumplay. See also Creampie
Dick
See Penis.
Dildo
An artificial penis used for sexual pleasure. See also Vibrator.
Femdom
Any form of female dominance over men. May include cuckolding, humiliation, CFNM, orgasm denial/ruined orgasm, forced bisexuality, pegging, or sadomasochism.
Forced Bisexuality
When an ordinarily heterosexual man is forced by a woman to engage in homoerotic acts with another man. Sometimes part of cuckold or MMF scenes.
Frot
The practice of men rubbing their penises together. This is hot. You should do it if you're a man and you get a chance. You should also invite a straight woman to watch.
Frotteur
A man who rubs himself on others against their will. This is gross (and often illegal); don't do it.
Fucking
See Screwing, Anal sex, Men fucking.
Hotwife
A wife whose husband encourages her to have sex with others. The hotwife does not humiliate her husband, and he does not feel humiliated by her acts. See also Cuckold.
IR
Interracial sex; sex between partners of different races, usually black men and white women. (One of these days, I'll have to write a blog post about why that is.)
  • Diigo: My IR links
Jacking off
Male masturbation.
Jilling off
Female masturbation.
Lover
Technically, anyone who is a sex partner of another. Frequently used to mean the sex partner of a married person other than his or her spouse. In the cuckold world, the wife's lover is often called a "bull."
Male chastity device
A mechanical device that prevents a man from having an orgasm or even getting an erection. His femdom partner will normally take custody of the key.
Male prostitutes
Men who provide sexual services in exchange for money. Women as well as men avail themselves of these services.
Male strippers
See CFNM
Masturbatrix
See Ruined orgasm
Men fucking
Male-male anal intercourse. Men seem rougher with each other and so merit the term, I think.
MFF
A one-man-two-woman threesome. Usually there is sexual contact between the two women.
MFM
A two-men-one-woman threesome in which the men do not have sexual contact with each other. (Notice the "M"s don't touch each other.)
MILF
An older woman -- at least by porn standards -- who is still considered sexually desirable. (Origin: "Mother I'd like to fuck.")
Milking
See Prostate massage / Milking
MMF
A two-men-one-woman threesome in which the men have sexual contact with each other (i.e., the men are or act bisexual). (Notice the "M"s touch each other.)
MMMF, MMMMF, etc.
A woman with three or more men. Usually the woman is the center of attention (i.e., there's no homoerotic stuff), but there are too many "M"s and not enough "F"s to indicate that in the abbreviation.
Orgasm denial
When a man's partner -- usually a dominant woman -- denies him the right to have an orgasm. Note that he may still be allowed to release semen, but not to have a fully satisfying orgasm. See also Male chastity device, Prostate massage / milking, Ruined orgasm.
Outercourse
Non-penetratrive sexual practices in which the man does not get to put his penis in a vagina, anus, or mouth. It's kept out of those orifices. See also Vulva
Pegging
The act of a woman using a strap-on dildo to have anal intercourse with a man.
Penis
The most prominent male genital organ. It's a cute name for a cute organ, whether erect or flaccid. Alternate names sound too brutal to me. Combining term: penis-vulva rubbing
Prostate massage / milking
A man's lover fingers his prostate through his anus. If there is little or no penile stimulation, the result is that the man emits semen, but does not have an orgasm.
Pubic hair
Hair that grows around the genitalia of mature adults. I like to see women in porn who look like women.
Pussy
The female genitalia, including vagina, vulva, labia, and clitoris. The anatomical terms seem too clinical and specific most of the time. And I won't even entertain the c-word. Treat your pussy well and she'll treat you well.
Rimming
See Anilingus
Ruined orgasm
A man's lover provides penile stimulation -- if she is a dominant woman, she is sometimes called a masturbatrix -- but only up to a point. Just before he would experience a full orgasm, she lets go. He emits semen and feels some pleasure, but less than he would during a fully satisfying orgasm.
Screwing
Male-female vaginal intercourse. It seems like a more gentle, loving word than any of the alternatives. See also Anal sex, Men fucking.
Sex
The entire gamut of intimate human contact. It can involve genitalia, anuses, mouths, hands, and other organs. It is not limited to intercourse.
Sloppy seconds
A second man screws a woman immediately after another man has screwed her. Often refers to a cuckold husband taking his turn screwing his wife after her lover got to have her first.
Small breasts
A- or B-cup sized breasts. As a woman with a slim body type, I like to see actresses with small boobs get the cute guy sometimes. Some of my favorite small-breasted actresses went on to get boob jobs during their careers, but I especially admire India Summer for keeping her figure in more ways than one.
Strap-on sex
One partner uses a strap-on dildo to screw the other in ways she or he couldn't do with their natural equipment. It can be a woman screwing a man in the ass (this is known as Pegging), a woman screwing another woman, or a man screwing a woman, in order to double penetrate her with his penis and the dildo. (I've never heard of male-male strap-on sex, but maybe it happens.)
Transvestite
One who wears clothing traditionally worn by the other gender, most often a man wearing women's clothes. Syn.: Crossdresser
Tribadism
The act of one woman rubbing her genitalia on another woman's body, often her genitalia as well.
Vibrator
A buzzing toy used for sexual pleasure. It may or may not be penis-shaped. See also Dildo.
Vulva
The external parts of a woman's genitalia, mainly the labia and the clitoris. Combining term: Penis-vulva rubbing. See also Pussy.
Women who like to watch
A straight woman who enjoys viewing men getting it on. (I'm not proud of the tag I use for this on Diigo. My only excuse is that the site limits the total number of characters users can have in tags for a link.)
Zaftig
Pleasingly plump. Although I have a slim body type, some of my favorite MILFs have curvy breasts, bellies, and butts. (Origin: "juicy," Yiddish and German)

Friday, January 27, 2012

She's looking for Messrs. Right

One of the great things about the Internet is that everything you remember seeing or reading or hearing turns up again sooner or later. I remember this commercial from the 1980s, but I don't think I thought about its implications at the time.

This woman is strutting around in a bar singing about how she's looking for Mr. Right, but all the men appear to be monsters (and probably don't smell nice). (I don't recommend doing this in real life!) This is what she sings:

Men, you better not come on too strong,
If you want to take me out tonight.
I've had enough of Mr. Wrong,
I want to be with Mr. Right.


So she picks them up by handing them deodorant, thus turning them into cute guys in the process. By my count, she's got at least three guys ready to go home with her. It would appear she's not so much looking for Mr. Right, but Messrs.* Rightnow. I knew there was a reason I liked this commercial.



* Messrs. is the plural of Mr.

Wednesday, August 3, 2011

Quite a Dame


Dame Helen Mirren, who has done everything from Shakespeare to the ill-advised Arthur remake, has a new distinction. She has been voted to have the best body in the world (even better than J. Lo., the Los Angeles Times helpfully notes). At right is Dame Helen in a bikini at the age of 63 (2008).



I hope I look half that good when I'm in my 60s.

More Helen Mirren:

Los Angeles Times slideshow, 2011

International Business Times slideshow, 2011

New York magazine (partial nudity), 2010

Helen Mirren, the bikini queen reigns supreme at 63, 2008

Tuesday, October 12, 2010

Which came first: the anal sex or the orgasms?

Friday, October 8, 2010

New Ryder loves women

News flash: New Ryder loves women -- big, strong women like Lisa Lyon, and if they'll peg his ass, so much the better!

Thursday, July 15, 2010

Why *mature* women lust

Time magazine has an article called The Science of Cougar Sex: Why Older Women Lust.

First thought: duh!

Second thought: Who you callin' "older" or a "cougar" for that matter?

Then I thought, I'm a woman of a certain age myself, maybe I should know about this. Turns out, according to evolutionary theory, women between 27 and 45 (this is what they're calling "older"?) have bodies that still want to get pregnant but need more sex to make it likely. I guess that makes sense. I don't want to get pregnant myself, but I do recall getting hornier in my mid- to late 20s. (And you, dear reader, are one of the beneficiaries of that biological fact!)

I'm still not keen on the title of the article, though. "Cougar" connotes an older woman who is out to get younger guys. And if that works for you, cougars, more power to you! But the article had nothing to do with that. It was about sexy *mature* women having more sex with partners of any age.

Thursday, June 10, 2010

Guess Her Muff

A new follower of this blog also follows Guess Her Muff. It's just what you might expect: you see a picture of a clothed woman, ask yourself if she's shaved or furry and if so what color, then click a link to find out the answer. Before anyone asks: no, I'm not going to send pictures.

Monday, June 7, 2010

Bush is back

"Bush is back," says Salon.com. "Not in the White House. But thanks to the recession, women are skipping the Brazilian and finally growing a little hair down there."

(Who better to advise on hair trends than Salon.com, right?)

But as a woman, I think there is something powerful in deciding that products and waxers and experts don't need to come between you and your private parts. It's OK to be a woman again -- a real woman, hair and all.

Note: The Salon essay does not feature any pictures, but if that's what you're looking for, I recommend this blog.

Tuesday, June 1, 2010

A pro-porn manifesto

Violet Blue has posted a pro-porn manifesto for women:

WE who declare that organizations such as Feminists Against Pornography do not speak for us.

WE who want the world to know that organizations such as Feminists Against Pornography do not represent feminists as a group.

WE who believe that every woman has the right and power to enjoy her sexuality as she decides.

WE who believe that to tell a woman how she may or may not enjoy her sexuality in any way is to deny that woman of her rights over her sexuality.

WE who state that any woman who attempts to control the way another woman enjoys, explores or expresses her sexuality is in fact creating a world that is harmful for all women.

WE who state that we are women, and we like pornography.

WE who state that as women, we are not harmed or threatened by the creation or viewing of pornography, and we wholly support the rights of any gender to view, create and enjoy pornography without judgment.

WE who want a world in which pornography is simply a sex toy enjoyed by all genders and sexual orientations, where women and men view porn within their own self-defined healthy sexuality, without being considered sick, twisted, wrong or mentally ill, and that men who enjoy pornography are no more likely to beat their wives, rape women or become paedophiles than anyone else in society.

WE hereby declare ourselves as adult women capable of making our own choices about our bodies and enjoyment of explicit visual stimulation for our sexual health and well-being.

WE hereby demand that our voices be heard.

To read more about the manifesto and how it came about, see Our Porn, Ourselves and the sex-positive, pro-porn campaign.

Thursday, April 29, 2010

Blowjob; orgasm

Delicious/vickiep




Angelina Valentine one of the best blowjobs - Fantasti.cc

Posted: 28 Apr 2010 03:41 AM PDT

Big hard-on, happy ending -- what's not to like?

Rutgers lab studies female orgasm through brain imaging | - New Jersey Magazine | Living in New Jersey | Inside Jersey - NJ.com

I'd volunteer my orgasm for science!

Posted: 28 Apr 2010 03:40 AM PDT

Saturday, February 13, 2010

What makes a woman want to masturbate?

Delicious/vickiep




What Makes A Woman Want To Masturbate?

Posted: 12 Feb 2010 03:02 AM PST

"Many women will do masturbation during intercourse with their partner. There are times when your partner cannot reach the right spot to help you to have an orgasm, while you are having sex. Your partner also may like to know that you are pleasuring yourself, and they will probably want to watch. This can also give your partner sexual pleasure by just watching you. This will make for a better relationship."

Wednesday, January 13, 2010

Women's sexual memoirs

I'm working on a new booklist, Women's sexual memoirs. Let me know if you can think of other books by women authors describing their true-life sexual adventures.

Monday, November 30, 2009

Women who want to want

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Women Who Want to Want - NYTimes.com

Posted: 29 Nov 2009 11:27 AM PST

Women with low levels of sexual desire (h/t Violet Blue)

Monday, August 24, 2009

Links, mostly about women's bodies

Delicious/vickiep



Female orgasms and a 'rule of thumb' -- latimes.com

Posted: 23 Aug 2009 06:44 PM PDT

AM Rule Refresher: Ladies First - AskMen.com

Posted: 23 Aug 2009 06:43 PM PDT

"Performing above-average oral sex on a woman takes some skill and an understanding of women's bodies." Hat tip to Svetlana at SexSecretsBlog.

the sex-positive link shoterner: vb.ly | violet blue ® :: open source sex

Posted: 23 Aug 2009 06:42 PM PDT

An Ass By Any Other Name: A Winner » Random Rim Jobs

Posted: 23 Aug 2009 06:42 PM PDT