Thursday, January 27, 2011

Sucking the dildo

I have to say most dildo-sucking sequences in strap-on videos leave me feeling meh. I don't get the attraction. (I don't make The Boyfriend do it during our strap-on sessions in RL either.) It can't be a physical pleasure. For the woman, the dildo is not part of her body, so she's not feeling anything. (Of course, there are videos of women with penises if you're into that sort of thing.) For the man, he's just getting a mouthful of whatever material they use to make the dildo.

I think I understand it, though. It's a psychological thing -- an act of female dominance (femdom) -- to "force" the man to suck her "cock." The implications of this trouble me. It implies that the beautiful act of fellatio -- an act regularly performed by straight women and gay men on their lovers -- is somehow demeaning, or at least beneath the dignity of a straight man. That being said, if you like to incorporate roleplaying into your strap-on activities, so the woman pretends to force the man to suck her dildo and the man pretends to feel demeaned by it all, yet all concerned are actually turned on by the proceedings, I have no problem with that.

For some other views, see the discussion How many into sucking the dildo? in the Tribe.net group Pegging is for Everyone.

4 comments:

  1. I have limited experience with sucking a strapon but the times I have it was more about showing how bad I wanted it in me and following direction, submitting etc. It was sort of a tease to be instructed to suck it in order to possibly take it. I felt like I had to please her with my sucking performance before he would reward me with penetration.

    Yes, it is humbling to be in the submissive position below her but I don't know if I'd say humbled equals humiliated.. Her strapon dangling down in your face is a very powerful gesture of dominance on her part however I'm not so sure I ever found it humiliating. I found it quite submissive and slutty to be on my knees sucking her cock even though it tasted like rubber/plastic. I just never got the impression any part of the act was to humiliate as much as it was to establish dominance.

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  2. Fair enough, Married Sub. Humbled but not humiliated, submissive, slutty. OK, I think I get it. Thanks for sharing your perspective.

    Yours,
    Vickie P.

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  3. My X-wife preferred to make me suck her "cock" because it was a turn on for her to watch me perform fellatio on her. She gave me cock sucking lessons teaching me all the valuable techniques for pleasing a cock with my mouth. She even over a period of a month taught me to "deep throat" a 9in. dildo that was an inch and a half wide without choking. She was an expert cock sucked herself and made me learn the same techniques she used on me. My last lesson was when she jacked me off with a condom on my cock collecting all my spent come. Rolling the come filled condom over her own cock she had me perform fellatio on her then when she tired she ordered me to bite a hole in the reservoir end sucking out the contents and swallowing just like she sucks and swallows when she sucks me.

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  4. Very creative, Mr. Anonymous and the former Mrs. Anonymous!

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