But strangely, he doesn’t really cum that way, it’s not like a real orgasm where he spurts his cum all over. To hear him describe it, and from what I’ve read about it, it’s not really sexually pleasurable for a man. It’s more frustrating than pleasurable. Like intensely frustrating. My hubby describes it as getting close to cumming… getting close… getting close… getting really close… and then “OH FUCK!”… not being able to cum.
The "submissive transvestite" who blogs at In Stockings agrees. In a post called Ass Whore, he describes riding "Miss H"'s strapon:
I felt a rather week feeling of cumming and looked down to see a huge puddle of cum flooding across Miss H's stomach. We both kind of looked at each other in shock and I rolled off of her, both of us smiling ear to ear. It was definitely something new for each of us. I never felt that kind of building pressure in my cock followed by an orgasm and release the way I would if I were just masturbating or having regular sex. Instead it was more of a pleasurable sensation followed by ejaculation with little if any orgasm involved. While it was nice, it had all the drawbacks of cumming (feeling instantly out of the mood for anything else sexual) and none of the bonuses (experiencing the pleasure of a full orgasm). Which actually puts it even behind a standard ruined orgasm on the pleasure scale.
This was certainly news to me! I thought that when a man comes (ejaculates), he comes (orgasms). No need to guess, as you guys sometimes need to do with us women. But if it's possible to make him come (ejaculate) without letting him come (orgasm), do you know what this means? Why, I can have my cake and eat it, too, so to speak! If I'm in the mood to deny The Boyfriend an orgasm -- and I am sometimes -- I can milk his prostate.
I get:
- To play with his butt
- To see him come (ejaculate)
- To deny him coming (orgasming)
He gets:
- Prostate stimulation
Advantage: Vickie!
* This is very important, because if you give him too much penile stimulation at the same time you are giving him prostate stimulation (stroke and poke, you might say), you might give him the ultimate male orgasm, according to Svetlana at Sex Secrets. That's nice, too, of course, but it's a very different outcome if you were planning to deny your man a real orgasm.
Tip of the dildo to New Ryder for the first post.
When performing self prostate stimulation, I have found I am able to experience multiple mental orgasms. Like you described, almost a physcial orgasm but not. I actually find them to be more pleasureable in general than physical orgasms however I find the penis and balls are extremely frustrated afterwards. the mind is exhausted though.
ReplyDeleteThanks, Sub. Those are the boyparts I am most interested in: penis, balls, and the male mind.
ReplyDeleteYours,
Vickie P.
I'd generally agree with the Sub about the "fake" orgasms that are mind blowing. I'd disagree that an anal orgasm without stroking the penis is frustrating, I find it actually extremely pleasurable to be able to achieve an ejaculatory orgasm through anal/prostate stimulation only. However I usually have sex with my girlfriend after the pegging session...
ReplyDeleteThanks for letting us know about your experience, Chou. Just to clarify: when you have a pegging session and then sex with your girlfriend (note: I would say the pegging session *is* sex, too), do you have an "ejaculatory orgasm" and then have intercourse afterward? Or do you stop short of ejaculation during the pegging?
ReplyDeleteQuestioning,
Vickie
Been reading your blog for about an hour now. Love it.
ReplyDeleteWhen my wife pegs me I have several (what we call) dry orgasms. My legs shake. My penis spasms and ot feels like a minor orgasm but I don't ejaculate other than a pretty steady flow of pre-cum.
I called these minor but when you start adding up 5... 8.... 12, it becomes pretty intense. Sometimes she finishes me off with the stroke and poke, sometimes we switch to intercourse. It all depends on her mood.
Thank you for this information, Anonymous. Always happy to hear about the (sometimes strange -- to me) ways of the male body. Five to 12, eh? Wow.
ReplyDelete"It all depends on her mood." That's music to the ears of a woman who writes a blog on femdom practices (among other things).
Keep reading, sweetie. I know I haven't updated the blog in a while, but I will.
Yours,
Vickie P.
The problem with teas and denial is blue balls. And blue balls in all honesty ruins the entire experience. Being teased and backed up isn't the best thing for a mans prostate and it can cause all kinds of problems. These guys going to weeks on end with only a milking are doing major damage to their male plumbing. Also a little tip if you want to get a guy oozing with pre cum and him making double the volume of cum feed him Peygum twice daily for about two months. He will be oozing pre cum constantly.
ReplyDelete@Anonymous:
ReplyDeleteRe. blue balls: Thanks for the tip. However, for some men -- as well as their mistresses -- who are really into femdom might find the pain to be a plus!
Re. prostate: I dunno. I've seen different medical opinions on the effect of a man not ejaculating for long periods of time.
Re. Peygum: thanks for the tip!
Trust me If you had a penis you would know what it feels like its awful. I think its different for each man but at the end of the day you need to jerk off at least a few days a week. The blue balls is one part but a man gets prostate problems due to all of this tease and denying. I don't need to ask anymore its not good for a man. Hardly the women can get pleasure from a man not being turned on but in pain. That is counter productive if you ask me.
ReplyDeleteI don't want to get into a pissing contest with one of my readers, Mr. Anonymous, but I still take issue with some of your statements. You're right about one thing: I don't have a penis, so I don't know what blue balls feel like. (I would think that having balls would be the main requirement, but I will defer to your experience here.) I have a back, though, so I know what whipping feels like. It hurts. I don't want it to happen to me. Yet there are people in this world who get off sexually on being whipped.
ReplyDeletePain can be a turn-on (for some people), especially when it's inflicted by a lover in an unequal power dynamic. And when it's the woman inflicting pain on the man, there's the whole dominant woman-submissive man role reversal that some people enjoy.
For all these reasons, some men like to be denied orgasms by their wives or girlfriends. (Note that I am not talking about going without a release of semen. That's known as "semen retention," and there are people who practice that for sexual, religious, or [misguided] health reasons. I have no trouble believing that's unhealthy for the prostate.)
What I'm talking about is when a man gets to release semen, but goes without a full orgasm for some period of time. One way to do this is through "prostate massage," or "milking." Prostate massage is where a man's lover fingers his prostate (through the, erm, back entrance). If there is little or no penile stimulation, the result is that the man emits semen, but does not have an orgasm.
A "ruined orgasm" is when a man's lover does provide penile stimulation -- if she is a dominant woman, she is sometimes called a masturbatrix -- but only up to a point. Just before he would experience a full orgasm, she lets go. Again, he emits semen and feels some pleasure, but less than he would during a fully satisfying orgasm. Believe it or not, there are some men who enjoy this. (Read the comment above, from June 3, 2012, in which the commenter claims to have 5-13 ruined orgasms in a session.)
There are a number of scenarios I can think of in which a man would want to have ruined orgasms:
* He wants to prolong sex with his partner. A man can have many ruined orgasms, but once he has a full one, he's done for a while.
* He likes pain/discomfort (masochism).
* He likes giving control of his orgasms to a dominant woman (masochism / submission).
* He likes being cuckolded -- yes, there are men who like this -- and not being allowed to have a full orgasm while his wife's lover does get to have full orgasms with her (masochism / submission / cuckold fetish).
Don't take my word for it, Mr. Anonymous. I urge you to Google the terms I've used above -- "prostate massage," "ruined orgasm," "mastubatrix." You will find forums where penis-possessing individuals are happily discussing these practices. Heck, you can even find videos in which penis-possessing individuals are willingly participating in these practices.
Just to get you started: take a look at Milovana.com. Much of the site is devoted to men discussing ruined orgasms and making "teases," in which a beautiful woman coaches the male viewer to have a ruined orgasm.
There are sexual practices that turn some people on and some people off. I hope the posts and comments on this blog show
I had a TURP done in 2011. It caused me o have Retrograde Ejaculation and within the past year Anorgasmia. Look them up. It sucks. Talk about blue balls. The only way I can Cum now is through Vigorous Prostate massage or a good ass fucking which stimulates my prostate. I f you had asked me 5 years ago would I allow anything near my man hole, I would have said no. The orgasms are intense although dry. All the Cum goes into my bladder now.
DeleteI've been searching for a reply to a question. I discovered my prostate about 10 years ago and when I'm in the mood, I really enjoy rubbing it. Sometimes I use my fingers but sometimes I also use a dildo. However, when I cum, it's very different from sex or masturbation. It's kinda like I cum and pee at the same time. The orgasms are incredibly intense and I really enjoy it.
ReplyDeleteMy question is this... Is this unique or do other men also experience the same thing?
I haven't heard of anyone else experiencing the same thing.
Thanks