Portrait of a Yilf: Lucas Frost

My new favorite YILF, or Youth I'd Like to Screw, is Lucas Frost. He is a beautiful, 28-year-old porn star. He sometimes wears a well-trimmed beard, but always has boyish good looks.

What I really want to write about, though, is his penis. I've noticed that often when he gets an erection, that gorgeous organ stands straight up! While many cute starlets in the adult film business have played with that penis, I'm more interested in what some of the sexiest MILFs have done with it. And it's not just because I am a "woman of a certain age" myself.

Benjamin Franklin — yes, that Benjamin Franklin — advised young men to make love to older women. The last reason was that "they are so grateful!" Women of a certain age have more options these days. But think about this: Let's say you're a woman who is close to 50. If you've been screwing men your own age, it's probably been a while since you've seen an erect penis that stood straight up. So, if you get your hands (or mouth or pussy) on such a penis, you're going to bestow upon it all the joy that your years of experience have taught you how to give.

So with that in mind, I went to IAFD to look up Lucas' appearances with the oldest and sexiest MILFs I could find. This is what I found:

• Darla Crane
• Latest scene with Lucas: 2016
• Her age: 50.3 (you go, woman!)
• His age: 25.6
• Age difference: 24.7 years
• Syren De Mer
• Latest scene with Lucas: 2016
• Her age: 47.3
• His age: 25.7
• Age difference: 21.6 years
• Julia Ann
• Latest scene with Lucas: 2018
• Her age: 48.8
• His age: 27.5
• Age difference: 21.3 years
• Reagan Foxx
• Latest scene with Lucas: 2019
• Her age: 48.9
• His age: 28.1
• Age difference: 20.8 years
• Brenda James
• Latest scene with Lucas: 2017
• Her age: 47.0
• His age: 26.7
• Age difference: 20.4 years
• Dana Vespoli
• Latest scene with Lucas: 2017
• Her age: 44.3
• His age: 25.9
• Age difference: 18.4 years
• Brandi Love
• Latest scene with Lucas: 2019
• Her age: 45.8
• His age: 27.9
• Age difference: 17.8 years

While I was, um, researching this post, I discovered a different type of scene Lucas has done. I said above that I would totally worship Lucas' penis given the chance. (OK, I said "a woman close to 50" who hasn't seen a really virile penis in a while. You probably guessed that was about me. All right, I admit it.) But that doesn't mean Lucas shouldn't worship pussy sometimes, right? Well, in these scenes, he goes down on a woman until she comes. Then — get this — she sends him on his way. You might say he gets nothing in return. I wouldn't. Pussy worship is its own reward, dammit.

I am all for this kind of femdom practice. If Lucas were my sweetheart, I'd make him worship my pussy, make me come, and leave him with blue balls. But only for a day or two. I couldn't let that beautiful penis suffer any longer.

What I like about erotica author Kirsten McCurran

A friend on GoodReads asked me what I like about the erotica author Kirsten McCurran.

What do I like about Kirsten McCurran?

The sex is hot, but that's true of all the top-rank cuckold/hotwife writers.

She experiments with different writing strategies. The one I just read, Carol's Trinity, is told in the present tense, rather than the past. Stephanie's Hotwife Seduction has the bull introduce cuckolding to the married couple (rather than having it be the husband's or the wife's idea), and the story is told from all three points of view.

The Hot Dates series (first, second, third) had some development as wife and husband get deeper into the lifestyle. Again it's told from both points of view. I wasn't keen on the dangerous character element that so many authors feel the need to introduce.

I'm not black or a man, but I think she gets black men right. When she has a black bull, she describes him as a real man with real emotions, not just a sex toy for the married couple to play with. That's true in Stephanie's Hotwife Seduction, Gentrified, and The Coach's Wife.

Othello by William Shakespeare: A review

I posted this to GoodReads not too long ago.  Over there, I hid the spoilers, but I figure my readers here are more literary sorts who already know the plot.

4/5 stars

I read "Othello" in high school and this is what I remember. So, Othello is this dashing African man serving in the Venetian military. Desdemona is a young woman from one of the most prominent families in Venice. She falls in love with Othello and marries him. And why not? He's strong, he's brave, he tells good stories. He's hot, I'm sure of it. (Just reading between the lines here, and my teacher said Shakespeare was bi, based on some stuff he wrote in the Sonnets.)

Some folks don't approve, though. Othello is subject to a lot of prejudice, and he's insecure inside. Othello gets jealous of Cassio, the cute young officer serving under him, when Desdemona has a friendly chat with him.

[Spoiler:
Desdemona probably would have liked to serve under Cassio, if you know what I mean. But they weren't screwing at all! It was all a lie made up by this Iago guy. But then Othello kills her anyway.]

I was so disappointed by the ending. But Shakespeare can write, so I give it four stars.

A French threesome

I'm fascinated by this scene in which a white French couple invites a beautiful black man into their bed. Unfortunately, I don't know enough French to understand the subtleties of their backstory.

When the scene starts, Girlfriend is in bed with Boyfriend. She gets up, goes to the stairwell, where she meets their neighbor, who happens to be running around in his pink skivvies. (Is this guy confident about his masculinity, or what?) She talks to him and brings him back to the bedroom. Boyfriend wakes up, and after Girlfriend explains the situation, he is happy to see their neighbor, and all three get it on. Their lover might be named Pierre (or Gaston or Michel).

Situation A

Girlfriend: Oh hey, Pierre (or Gaston or Michel), I'm glad I caught you. Listen, Boyfriend and I have had a fantasy involving you?

Pierre (or Gaston or Michel): Moi?

Girlfriend: Yes, you. We'd like you to join us in bed for a threesome. I'm very attracted to you, and Boyfriend would like me to have this experience. What do you say? Is now a good time?

Pierre (or Gaston or Michel): Mais oui!

In bedroom

Girlfriend: Look who I found on our stairwell: Pierre (or Gaston or Michel)! I told him about our fantasy and he's into it!

Boyfriend: Well, get in bed then!

Situation B

Girlfriend: Bonjour, cher Pierre (or Gaston or Michel). Thanks for making our rendezvous.

Pierre (or Gaston or Michel): No problem, cherie. I can't wait to get with you again.

Girlfriend: I want to suggest a little change of plans.

Pierre (or Gaston or Michel): Oh?

Girlfriend: I'm tired of sneaking around, see. So, instead of going back to your place, I'd like you to come to mine.

Pierre (or Gaston or Michel): What about your boyfriend?

Girlfriend: I'll handle him.

In bedroom

Girlfriend: Boyfriend, this is Pierre (or Gaston or Michel) from upstairs. We've been screwing three times a week for months. We're going to do it here this morning. You can participate, or watch, or leave the room.

Boyfriend: Well, get in bed then!

If any of you know enough French to follow the dialog in this scene, please post a comment below to explain it to me. Merci!

Vickie's Vocabulary: YILF

From time to time, I will add new terms to Vickie's Vocabulary.

YILF

Youth I'd like to screw. [Origin: my own coinage, back-formation from MILF.]

• Blog: My posts on YILFs
• Pornhub: My favorite YILFs
• Pornhub: My Beautiful young men playlist
• XVideos: My Beautiful young men gallery
• Diigo: My Young lover links

What do I like? My sexual paradigm

I've written that I hate foreplay and I hate intercourse. (If you haven't read those sister essays, please read them before reading this one.)

So, what do I like? I made a long list of sexual activities. I like doing most of these things. The list is not exhaustive, though. Use your imagination! If something seems sexual to you -- as long as it involves consenting adults -- it probably is. The point is, there are many kinds of sexual activities. If you are engaging in one or more of them, you are having sex. It's still sex even if you don't do intercourse/screwing.

So, that's the first rule: penile-vaginal intercourse is optional. You should do it if both partners want to do it. Since straight men, in my experience, want to do it every time they get in bed, that gives the woman an effective veto. If she doesn't want it, it doesn't happen. Ladies, if you want your man to lick your pussy instead of screwing, have him do that. If you want him to watch as you masturbate, do that. If you want him to use his penis to pleasure your vulva, but not put it inside your vagina (outercourse), do that. If you want to screw him for a while but stop before he comes, do that. Do what makes you feel good.

That leads to my second rule: the woman's orgasm is NOT optional. Ladies, when you get in bed, you should resolve to come as much as you want. If you get caught up in your own orgasms and your man doesn't get to come before it's time to go to sleep or get the kids, so be it.

What if your man just wants to masturbate to orgasm?

If that's all he wants, it seems churlish to say no. However, if the woman just doesn't have the energy or the interest to put up with her man jerking off in her presence, I think she is within her rights to tell him to take care of that in another time or place. (If the couple practices male orgasm denial, she can tell him not to do it at all, but that's a post for another day.)

Vickie, you get to have as many of your orgasms as you want, however you want. You get to masturbate in front of your partner. Yet your man might not get to do any of these things. Isn't that a double standard?

I am convinced that the female orgasm is superior to that of the male in quality as well as quantity. A woman meeds some scope to get as much satisfaction from her orgasms as possible. Sometimes, there just won't be time enough for the male orgasm.

Also, for centuries, men were assured of the primacy of their orgasms. They got to come every time they got in bed with a woman. The women? Not so much. It's time for the primacy of the female orgasm. If some male orgasms are sacrificed, I'm OK with that.

On a more personal note, The Boyfriend and I are moving to a Female Led Relationship (FLR). This is a step in our relationship. Control the penis (and its orgasm), and you control the man. If any of this intrigues you, I urge you to discuss it with your partner and give it a try.

MILFs and YILFs

I am a fan of MILF porn, as you can probably tell from this blog and its links. I love to see women my age (or close to it) seizing sexual fulfillment. Another thing I like is that the MILFs often have their way with beautiful young men. Below is my list of my favorite YILFs, or Youths I'd Like to screw. (I've included their birth years, so you can see how young they are. Some of these young men are now in their 30s, but they're still 15-20 years younger than me.)

• Johnny Castle (1980)
• Bill Bailey (1980)
• Julius Ceazher (1980)
• Nathan Threat (1981)
• Flash Brown (1981)
• Moe Johnson (1981)
• Brian Pumper (1981)
• Jon Jon (1981)
• Jason Brown (1982)
• Ryan Driller (1982)
• Rocco Reed (1982)
• CJ Wright (1982)
• Ryan McLane (1982)
• Dane Cross (1983)
• Rob Piper (1983)
• Rico Strong (1984)
• Giovanni Francesco (1984)
• Michael Vegas (1984)
• Bruce Venture (1985)
• Danny Wylde (1985)
• James Deen (1986)
• Tyler Nixon (1987)
• Clover (1987)
• Kyle Mason (1987)
• Seth Gamble (1988)
• Xander Corvus (1988)
• Jax Slayher (1988)
• Isiah Maxwell (1989)
• Logan Pierce (1990)
• Van Wylde (1990)
• Rion King (1991)
• Ricky Johnson (1992)

I hate intercourse

Note: You should probably read this piece's sister essay, I hate foreplay, before reading this one.

I hate intercourse.

Don't get me wrong. I love screwing. I love having part of my man inside me -- his beautiful penis in my pussy. I love the way he moves, making me feel good, making himself feel good. I love to touch my clit as he fills me, making myself feel even better. I love when he explodes, leaving his juice in my pussy.

What I dislike is the assumption that all heterosexual activity will result in penis-vaginal intercourse. The idea that if you haven't had intercourse, you haven't had sex. (This dutiful doing-it-because-you're-supposed-to is what I call intercourse. When you're doing it because you want to, that I call screwing.)

So, I've let The Boyfriend know that when we get into bed:

• Screwing is not guaranteed.
• His orgasm is not guaranteed (but mine is).

The first rule ensures that we keep in mind that sex encompasses acts other than intercourse, and we only screw when we both really want to. Now, since The Boyfriend wants to screw every time we get in bed, that means, by necessity, that I have veto power.

The second rule comes about because of the facts of life:

1. Time for sexual activity is finite.
2. Most women don't have an orgasm from intercourse (or screwing) alone.

Sooner or later, we all have to get out of bed to go to work, care for family members, do chores, etc. So, in my limited time for sex, I can:

1. Have x orgasms from sexual activities that make me come, then screw The Boyfriend (or give him a blowjob or a handjob), so he gets to come, or
2. Have x orgasms from sexual activities that make me come, then deny The Boyfriend an orgasm and have y more orgasms in that time myself.

Now, most of the time, I'm a considerate and caring lover and go for option A. But sometimes, I get greedy and go for option B. I get to masturbate, receive cunnilingus, screw him if I want, have as many orgasms as I want, but he doesn't get to come if I don't let him. I have to admit it's a turn-on when I have been satisfied with multiple orgasms and I see his erect penis twitching and aching to come.

If I deny him an orgasm, he's on his honor not to give himself one for at least 24 hours thereafter. If I catch him breaking this rule, I may have to apply a male chastity device to his penis

I don't believe in retributive justice for a whole gender, but I would point out that, for centuries, when a man and woman got in bed, the man was assured of having an orgasm, but the woman wasn't. In our relationship, anyway, that paradigm is reversed.

You may call me a femdom (or worse). You may call what we do a female-led relationship, or orgasm control, or orgasm denial, but it works for us.

Here's an illustration (click on it to see full size). The first graph is the usual paradigm. The second is what I'm advocating.

Birthday wishlist: an open letter to The Boyfriend

Dearest Boy,

As you know, my birthday is coming up. It's not a big one like a couple years ago,¹ but a girl's birthday is a girl's birthday, so I'm dreaming big. (I know I may not get any of these wishes, but being with you will make it a special day.)

I've listed my wishes with descriptions and links to illustrative videos (for the reader's enjoyment).

Male strippers

One or more gorgeous guys to dance naked for my girlfriends and me. They should be strippers with benefits (i.e., we women get to touch the merchandise).

• Stripper at a birthday party. He even brings the cake.

A lover

We've talked about how I'd like to cuckold you with another man. And you want it, too. You just have to get to the point where you're more turned on by the idea than you are tortured with jealousy. If we do this, I'd like an attractive man with whom I'll have some chemistry, but I promise not to fall in love with him.

• For her 40th birthday, wife gets a "toyboy".
• A 50-ish wife gets a 19-year-old young man for her birthday.
• A young, white wife has a black man for her birthday. "Are you my birthday gift?" she asks. "My husband dropped me off and told me my birthday gift was upstairs."

A threesome (MFM)

Two men lavishing all their attention on me. (You are welcome to join in as one of the male participants, my sweet, or you could arrange for two other men to make love to me.)

• A mature wife asks her hubby to arrange a threesome with his friend for her birthday. She's "just a very sexual person," she explains.
• Another mature white wife takes two black lovers for her birthday.

A threesome (MMF)

Same as above, except that the men give some (homoerotic) attention to each other, for my viewing pleasure. (You are welcome to join in here, too, if you want to indulge your bisexual tendencies.)

• Her boyfriend (?) brings her flowers and sings happy birthday, but her real gift is a threesome with another man
• A mature wife and hubby are in bed celebrating her birthday, when a friend shows up. What's he doing here? Is he just here to film? Is he a playmate for the wife? Or is he a playmate for both of them? Spoiler: The answer becomes clear when he starts to suck hubby's penis.

Moresome

Three or more men and li'l ol' me. Sorry, no women, I'm not very interested in lesbian activity.

• Hubby takes wife to party with four guys on her birthday
• White wife gets various birthday presents, then she hooks up with three black men
• For her 50th birthday, hubby surprises his wife with three men

All my love,
Vickie

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1. If you're not The Boyfriend and you're interested in my age, etc., see my social media at Pornhub, Xhamster, Xvideos, Diigo, GoodReads

The Penis Fetish

Hey hi, all,

This is really interesting.

According to Dr. Dawn Michael, noted sex therapist,* cuckold husbands can develop a penis fetish. That means they are really interested in other men's penises. I know what you're thinking: "That means he's gay." I thought the same thing myself, but no, not necessarily. As long as he's not interested in men or having a relationship with a man — just penises — he's not gay.

Do you see what this means? If The Boyfriend has a penis fetish (or if he, um, develops ones), I can take a lover, and he will even encourage me to cuckold him, in the hopes of getting to experience the other man's penis. And yet it won't mean he's gay, which is good, because I do love him and all, and want to continue our relationship, and don't want him to run off with a boyfriend of his own.

Here is Dr. Dawn's video and some articles on the subject:

• Straight Man with a Penis Fetish in Cuckold Relationship
• Why Even Straight Men Can Be Into Cuckold And Have A Penis Fetish

* She's got a lot of YouTube videos.

Vickie's Vocabulary, version 1.2

Vickie's Vocabulary now has its own page. Now with links to my Pornhub playlists and a dose of cock teasing. But don't worry, all major updates will be announced on the blog as well.

Vickie's Vocabulary: Cock Tease

From time to time, I will add new terms to Vickie's Vocabulary.

Cock Tease

Practice in which a man's partner stimulates his penis, but denies him intercourse or a fulfilling orgasm. See also Orgasm denial and Ruined orgasm.

• Pornhub: My Tease and denial playlist

"Gentrified: A Wife Seduced" by Kirsten McCurran (book review)

I've read a lot of cuckold fiction -- mostly short stories, a few novel-length works. Most of the novels seem to provide a scaffold on which to hang the sex scenes -- I read erotica, so I've certainly got nothing against sex scenes -- but not a lot of development. In her novel, McCurran takes the time she needs to develop her characters and their actions, and I think it pays off.

McCurran gives us a look into the thoughts of both Jess, a young wife and mother who has moved into a gentrifying district, and Winston, her handsome, black neighbor. Winston knows what he wants right from the beginning. Jess is unsure at each step; many of her thoughts end in question marks. This rings true for a man and a woman in their positions. (One thing that gives me pause, though, is that Winston sometimes thinks of Jess as "prey." Do men really think like that?) The other major characters are Kyle, Jess's husband, and Nicole, her best friend.

The story unfolds at a leisurely pace, with events deepening the relationships among the characters, yet with plenty of steamy sex along the way. I think any fan of cuckold erotica will find something to like here.

Pretty in Pink

Pretty in Pink: Fellatrix Blows Two Male Strippers at a Party

Leslie Jones on women's sexual satisfaction (and penis size)

Leslie Jones on women's sexual satisfaction (and penis size)

I hate foreplay

I hate "foreplay."

Don't get me wrong: I love the acts usually comprehended by that term. When I'm in bed with The Boyfriend, I am not overly hasty to get to the screwing part of the program.

I hate the word "foreplay." I hate the implication that all of those delicious acts are just a prelude to — and inferior to — intercourse, that "sex" means intercourse and everything else is not sex.

Here is my definition of "sex":

The entire gamut of intimate and loving human contact. It can involve genitalia, anuses, mouths, hands, and other organs. It is not limited to intercourse.

Some things to note about this:

• It has to be "intimate and loving." A gynecological exam is not sex. Rape is not sex.
• The genitalia or anus involved could be your own. Masturbation is sex.

All of the following are sex:

• A hand on a breast
• A hand on male genitalia
• A finger (or hand) in an anus
• A hand on or in female genitalia
• A mouth on a breast
• A mouth on male genitalia
• A mouth on an anus
• A mouth on or in female genitalia
• A sextoy on a breast
• A sextoy on male genitalia
• A sextoy on or in an anus
• A sextoy on or in female genitalia
• A breast on a breast
• A breast on female genitalia
• A breast on male genitalia
• Female genitalia on female genitalia
• Male genitalia on male genitalia
• Male genitalia on female genitalia
• A penis on or in an anus
• A penis on or in a vagina

Notes:

• Male genitalia includes penis, balls — the whole package.
• Female genitalia includes vagina, vulva, labia, clitoris — the whole package.

Vickie's Vocabulary: Sex

From time to time, I will revise terms in Vickie's Vocabulary. The part in italics is new.

Sex

The entire gamut of intimate and loving human contact. It can involve genitalia, anuses, mouths, hands, and other organs. It is not limited to intercourse.

Vickie's Vocabulary: Adorable, beautiful, cute, gorgeous, hot, lovely, pretty, sweet

From time to time, I will revise terms in Vickie's Vocabulary. The part in italics is new.

Adorable, beautiful, cute, gorgeous, hot, lovely, pretty, sweet

These words, which used to be applied almost exclusively to women, are now frequently used by women to apply to men's faces, bodies, and body parts. I think it reflects a changing power dynamic. Women look at, admire, and lust after male beauty and are not ashamed to admit it.

• XVideos: My Beautiful young men gallery
• Diigo: My Beautiful men links
• Diigo: My Women praising men's bodies links

A change in The Boyfriend?

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Vickie's Vocabulary: Do him / do her

From time to time, I will add new terms to Vickie's Vocabulary.

Do him / Do her, to

To screw someone. Often expressed as a desire to get into someone's pants. Example: As Sarah and Vickie eyed the studly young construction worker, Vickie said, "I'd do him."