I hate foreplay

I hate "foreplay."

Don't get me wrong: I love the acts usually comprehended by that term. When I'm in bed with The Boyfriend, I am not overly hasty to get to the screwing part of the program.

I hate the word "foreplay." I hate the implication that all of those delicious acts are just a prelude to — and inferior to — intercourse, that "sex" means intercourse and everything else is not sex.

Here is my definition of "sex":

The entire gamut of intimate and loving human contact. It can involve genitalia, anuses, mouths, hands, and other organs. It is not limited to intercourse.

Some things to note about this:

• It has to be "intimate and loving." A gynecological exam is not sex. Rape is not sex.
• The genitalia or anus involved could be your own. Masturbation is sex.

All of the following are sex:

• A hand on a breast
• A hand on male genitalia
• A finger (or hand) in an anus
• A hand on or in female genitalia
• A mouth on a breast
• A mouth on male genitalia
• A mouth on an anus
• A mouth on or in female genitalia
• A sextoy on a breast
• A sextoy on male genitalia
• A sextoy on or in an anus
• A sextoy on or in female genitalia
• A breast on a breast
• A breast on female genitalia
• A breast on male genitalia
• Female genitalia on female genitalia
• Male genitalia on male genitalia
• Male genitalia on female genitalia
• A penis on or in an anus
• A penis on or in a vagina

Notes:

• Male genitalia includes penis, balls — the whole package.
• Female genitalia includes vagina, vulva, labia, clitoris — the whole package.

A Cuckold Video (maybe)

Caroline and Michael posted a sweet comment to this blog, so I went browsing their blog about their cuckold lifestyle, Caroline cucks Michael, and their other blog about cuckolding generally. That's where I found Cuckold video (scroll down below the picture to get to the video).

Caroline and Michael's caption says, "Making a video so she can show her husband how he made her cum." I don't know if the man and the woman in this video are cuckolding anybody -- there's no indication in the video itself -- but it's a hot scene anyway. (If it makes the video hotter for you to imagine that the couple made it for her husband to see, then go for it, I say.)

They start out fully clothed on a bed, kissing. Occasionally, the man strips off some of his clothes and hers. Eventually, he's naked and she's wearing her bra and panties. He slides off her panties and penetrates her. As they are screwing, he continues to look into her eyes and often kisses her. He slides a pillow under her butt and holds her legs up to thrust into her more deeply.

"Oh, Michael," she says, and he lies down and kisses her, then they rearrange themselves so she is sitting in his lap and screwing him. After he takes off her bra, she gets on top and screws him. "Michael," she says, "I'm going to come!"

They change positions again, and he screws her from behind. He gets up on one leg and pushes hard. Then it's back to missionary, and he inserts his penis without using his hands (nice!). He holds up one of her legs. "Fuck me hard, Mike, fuck me hard!" she says. "I'm going to come!" (Maybe he comes at this point, too.)

More hugging, kissing, and gentle screwing.

He gets up and goes down on her. He stops to kiss her and lube up a vibrator. She moans to the sensations that his mouth and vibrator make on her pussy. "Mike, I think I'm going to come," she says. "I don't want to come yet." That doesn't stop him from what he's doing. "Please, please, please, Mike, Oh!" She comes. He keeps licking. She comes again. He licks some more until she makes him stop.

She gives him a big hug. He moves to go down on her again, but she doesn't let him.

Very hot!

This is my kind of video: you can't tell when or if the man comes, but you can definitely tell that the woman does -- multiple times!

Getting It from Behind: Amateur Backdoor Play

Getting it from behind starts with a seated man, his legs spread, who is getting fingered and then rimmed by a woman. He already has an erection, secured by a cock ring. She applies lube and then a thin vibrator. She lovingly works it in and out and licks his penis and balls. She hold his penis and strokes it a bit, while continuing to practice buttplay with the vibrator. She sucks him a little more, then holds his penis. He starts to breathe hard and come without any further stimulation. She strokes and sucks him some more, then starts to chuckle. (Unfortunately, at this point, the camera is focused on the woman's side and we no more of the man.)

I thought this was quite hot. Both partners are clearly into prostate massage (you might even call it prostate milking). I only wish it were longer than six minutes.

Tip of the dildo to Le plaisir du massage de la prostate, 25 Aout 2011

Ruby Ryder's Pegging Paradise

I want to tell you about Ruby Ryder. Ruby is a friend of mine from Tribe.net, where she recently took on the leadership of the Pegging 101 group.

She also has a web site called Ruby Ryder's Pegging Paradise, where you'll find her blog and two marvelous essays:

• Convincing Her to Try It


• Convincing Him to Try It

In addition, she writes some hot erotic stories about pegging. Some of these are free, but you can get more of them on a regular basis if you pay for a subscription.

Amateur buttplug video

Wife uses buttplug to give her husband anal pleasure is just what it says. What else do you need to know? She wears nothing but a bra and slaps his ass several times. He doesn't come. Some of you might choose to believe she's denying him an orgasm. I like to think he got to come later.

Vibrators on a shelf near you

Vibrators on a shelf near you

There it is in the New York Times, and there they are in chain drugstores.

This comes as no surprise to Rachel Venning, a founder of Babeland, a chain of sex-toy stores that opened a store in family-friendly Park Slope, Brooklyn, in 2008 to nary a ripple of protest. “I know women will buy them at Duane Reade, and as a lifelong cheerleader for sexual empowerment I’m thrilled at this development,” Ms. Venning said. “It’s one more step in the evolution of vibrators to just another consumer product, unburdened of its freight of shame, sexual defect and sluttiness.”

[...]

Men interviewed proclaimed themselves not only unthreatened by the addition of accessories to their partners’ sex lives, but downright enthusiastic. Jeremy, 31, a content strategist in the entertainment business who lives in New York and wanted his last name omitted for privacy, said, “From my perspective, a woman who has thoroughly explored her own body, both alone and with or without whichever toys she finds interesting, makes for a significantly better lover.”

Rye is a take charge guy

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Uncommon Appetites: A Take Charge Guy. Posted: 07 Mar 2011 07:56 AM PST Rye masturbates with an anal toy. His wife Violet documents the proceedings.

Vibrator video; You're not a "homo" if you like pegging

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Vibrators for teens

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Vibrators for teens - Dan Savage, Savage Love Posted: 04 Aug 2010 06:10 PM PDT "Anyone old enough to have a dick in her tw*t is old enough to have a vibrator in her nightstand. And social and cultural conservatives are apparently unaware of e-commerce. Amazon has a nice selection of vibrators. Young ladies who want a vibrator don't need to be of legal age to enter venues that sell sexual paraphernalia. All they need is internet access and a credit card."

Pegging and other fun with sex toys

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Bend Over, Boyfriend: The Ins and Outs of Pegging | Doin' It Well Posted: 28 May 2010 07:54 AM PDT

Toy Party with Pictures « ZymurgyMike Posted: 28 May 2010 07:26 AM PDT Cara goes to a sextoy party with her girlfriends

ShazamSF's big day

ShazamSF makes April 15 a "Day of Fuck" with four different cocks in 24 hours:

• Cock no. 1


• Cock no. 2


• Cock no. 3


• Cock no. 4


• Day of Fuck (Epilogue)
  

Violet Blue picks sex toys that will change your life

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Sex Toys That Will Change Your Life / Violet Blue: Can a sex toy change your life? For many, the answer is yes Posted: 17 Dec 2009 07:16 PM PST

She's 16 and she wants a vibrator

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I'm 16, and I want a vibrator. - - Slate Magazine Posted: 10 Nov 2009 06:23 PM PST Interesting question: should she tell her mother?

What sex toy should you get? I've got a hunch!

I've been trying out the new "decision-making tool," Hunch. You tell it what you want to decide, and if it has that topic, it asks you some questions and then gives you an answer.

I didn't see anything about sex toys, so naturally, I wrote one myself. Test it out: click on What sex toy should I get?. Answer the questions and see what it says. If you don't like the answer you get, you can edit it.

(I know there are sometimes it will give a wrong answer, even though I tried to have things come out right. If you can see how to fix these, go for it!)

Postscript (6/17): Looks as if my hard work to help people find the right sex toy has been deleted. Maybe it was too explicit for them. Just a hunch!

Women and their toys

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Eric's Butterfly Erotica | Betty Dodson with Carlin Ross Posted: 08 May 2009 12:24 PM PDT Story featuring a woman, a man, a vibrator. Very hot!

amy reid - strap attack - Fantasti.cc video Posted: 08 May 2009 08:43 AM PDT More dialog than you might expect. He: "The things I really like to do, I don't know if I should tell you." She: "I'm very open-minded." He: "I like things in my *ss."

Penises, real and mechanical

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RedTube - Girl has wonderful Orgasm on Sybian Posted: 30 Apr 2009 10:44 PM PDT

Secrets of the Phallus: Why Is the Penis Shaped Like That?: Scientific American Posted: 30 Apr 2009 09:02 PM PDT "The researchers selected several sets of prosthetic genitals from erotic novelty stores, including a realistic latex vagina sold as a masturbation pal for lonely straight men and tied off at one end to prevent leakage, and three artificial phalluses."